Depressing...

So both friends and family are telling me, in almost a gleeful manner, that I will no longer have me time. Priority changes. Child comes first. Okay, I can understand that. But why no more self? I am having a hard time with this. No more myself, the one who likes to tinker with paper craft and anything DIY. Why? Why can't husband share child care so wife can have alone time once in awhile? My girl friends tell me that while it is a great concept, it simply does not work because kids will stick to mom naturally. Since I am mom, I will have to be the one taking on the bulk of child caring. Dads simply can't fill the shoe. But why? Why? Why can't husband and wife share baby duties equally? Am I not the one having to carry the burden for 9 months already? Why do I have to continue to carry on the burden for the next 18 years?

I guess it is conversation time with zdog.